Understanding Idle Time

Harvey Firestone

Time to read: 3 mins

Some of the hardest goals that we set for ourselves are those that are long term.  Long term goals require consistent action, over an extended period of time.  With long term goals the element of time is unavoidable.  In these scenarios time can be used to learn, grow and mature.

In other circumstances time is avoidable, when you are clear on what you want to achieve and the steps that need to be followed; there is no need to wait or procrastinate.

So what can you do with your idle time while you are:

a. Growing, maturing and learning and
b. Waiting and procrastinating

Learn, grow and mature
As I mentioned earlier learning, growing and maturing as a person are associated with long term goals. You might be completing a degree or saving for your first home or training for a marathon. Seeing the end is hard, especially when it is so far away. Imagining what it means to achieve your goals may give you enough motivation and momentum to keep yourself going and stay focused. If you have a long term goal in mind, take some time to think about how:

The small steps you take are leading to-> The lifelong habits  you are developing-> How these habit are needed to  ->  Reach long term goals.

Waiting and procrastination

If we are in the latter (b.) we most likely don’t have clarity on what we have to do (i.e. the next action) and there is a deeper reason why we haven’t taken action (usually around fear), but it hasn’t surfaced.   A combination of the two is used to make up excuses.

The definition of an excuse is: A justification for not doing something; but it’s not a reason, it’s more of a revision of the facts that you use to make yourself feel better.  It’s an alteration of reality.

I recently read The 10x Rule by Grant Cardone and one of my favorite chapters was on excuses.  Everybody has excuses and we all have a few that we employ over and over again.  So rather than ignore them it’s better that you confront right now.

c. Creativity

There is a third way we spend idle time that hasn’t been mentioned up until now.

We need idle time for our mind to be creative, inventive and find solutions to existing problems.

For most of us, when the words ‘solution’, ‘problem’ and even ‘invention’ is mentioned we naturally try to return to a model, or process that exists within our domain. This is not what I am talking about here. In fact, anytime where we are repeating something that we already know; this is not creative.

In its purest form, creative work has no purpose and no outcome; idle time is used to allow your mind to be silent and do nothing. We just need the time and space to let out minds moodle.  Now, few of us have this luxury, because we live in an environment where results, productivity and outcomes are king.  But think about this…

Who has the greatest value on any organisation? The answer is the person with the ideas.
Capital isn’t so important in business, experience isn’t so important, you can get both these things.  What is important is ideas, if you have ideas you have the main assets that you need and there isn’t any limit to what you can do with your business and your life – Harvey Firestone

Understanding how our idle time is spent helps us to identify where our time is being used and what to do. When we are learning, growing and maturing; reflecting upon your goals will help to keep you motivated and focused.

When our time is being wasted on procrastination, identify the next action and drop the excuses to be more productive.

Finally (although it is less understood) allowing our minds the space and silence provides us with an opportunity to generate original ideas and thinking. This act may have greatest value and impact not only in our own lives but the lives of those around us.

Distraction, Clutter and Lions (yes, lions)


Time to read: 2 mins

A few months ago I had an idea of writing a blog post on the topic of clutter and distraction. But then I got distracted…


I also had another thought; those that are able to spend more of their time in direct reflection and purposely choosing what to absorb, are more focused and driven towards their goals.


With each passing moment, they are able to decide what’s most important to them and stay focus on its pursuit.



Distraction and Clutter

Distraction is defined as a thing that prevents someone from concentrating on something. Clutter, on the other hand is to cover or fill something (like your mind) with an untidy collection of things.

Sometimes you can have so much clutter that it becomes a distraction from what you are trying to focus on.  I then started to think about what it means to have focus;  is focus just a matter of removing all of the clutter so that we don’t have any distractions?


Kobe Bryant

I  remember reading an article after Kobe Bryant’s last game in Boston. As much as I dislike Mr.Bryant (being a Celtics fan), interviews with his team mates, coaches and his opponents have reveal a common theme.


When it comes to winning, this guy is really really focused.  At times (ironic as it sound) it has even come at the detriment of his own team mates.  He has been known to walk out of team practices because other weren’t trying hard enough.  He has called out his own team mates, asking them to ‘put your big-boy pants on‘ .  All in the name winning.  If players are not willing to come along on the journey, then he is dragging you along with him.


Nothing conveys his mindset better than a conversation he had with an opposing player, Isaiah Thomas where he shared a rare piece of advice.



Be a Lion.

From Isaiah perspective, this is how the conversation went:


He told me this story about how a lion seeks food, whatever he’s gonna kill and eat.
You know how many bugs are on the lion’s eyes and gnats on his body?
He’s so locked in on that zebra that he doesn’t get distracted by anything else”
If you get distracted by little things, then you’re not as locked in as you think you are.
He said for me to be a lion, and that’s gonna stick with me the rest of my life.


To put this into context, it helps to understand what Kobe had achieved and where Isaiah was in his career.


Kobe Bryant (age 38) Isaiah Thomas (age 27)
 NBA champion 5 0
 NBA Finals MVP 2 0
 NBA Most Valuable Player 1  0
 NBA All-Star 18  1
 All-NBA First Team 11  0
 NBA All-Defensive Team  9  0
 NBA scoring Champion  2  0
 NBA Slam Dunk Champion  1  0


Conquering Both 

Clutter can be controlled, we just need to be a little wiser with what we absorb and when.  Distractions are sometime unavoidable because they can come from an external source, but a lion can conquer both.

Assuming that you have determined what your focus is (i.e. the zebra) and if the focus has enough significance and importance to you. Isn’t it time you ignore the distractions (i.e. the gnats) and looked pass all of the clutter (i.e. the bugs).


Lock in. Go for the kill. Be a Lion.

When leading gets risky.. (and why it’s a good thing)

Cynthia Carrol

Time to read: 2 mins

I have been building on the habit of writing daily. Not only to write, but to write with risk.


It’s easy enough to first learn about a topic and then write about it, but there is very little risk in that. You know that it won’t fail, because the ideas that you are presenting have worked before (for the previous author). When you are regurgitating ideas that are not your own, chances are no one will say that you are wrong.


What’s harder to do is to think and reflect and come up with your own idea, link that to other ideas, examine the reality of the world and then challenge them.


To come up with your own conclusions and not look for something that has already been done and proven is a risk… In essence, this is what it means to lead.


When we do anything to stand out and introduce something that is different from the norm, we stray from the herd and become vulnerable and an easy target. This is not only true of writing but for any other endeavours that we choose to follow.



Followers and leaders

When we follow, there is no fear of being rejected or being called a fraud and there is some comfort in that. Leaders, on the other hand, are constantly fighting off the lizard brain. They work along the edge and try to push the boundaries.


The boundaries are around what is perceived to be our ‘safety zone’ (i.e. what is good enough’) and our ‘comfort zone’ (what we are willing to do).  Think about that last sentence for a minute before reading on.



The amazing Cynthia Carroll

I recently finished reading Seth Godin’s book The Icarus Deception. In the appendix, Seth told the story of Cynthia Carroll, the first female CEO and the first non-South African to head the 100 year old company, Anglo American, a multibillion dollar major mining company that employs over 150,000 staff. As one of her first act as CEO, she visited the Rustenburg mine.


Cynthia found out about the dangerous work conditions (where on average 40 employees die a year) and opted to shut down the mine for 9 weeks; a mine that was the most profitable platinum mine in the world. After a multiyear battle with unions, government and other mining companies, a year later, fatalities dropped by half.


Cynthia (illustrated above) did something that no other CEO before her had ever done, she shared stats, provided options and made herself vulnerable.  She pushed the boundaries of what is good enough and what she and Anglo America were willing to do.



When to lead

It’s important to understand that we don’t need to be a leader in every aspect of our lives (nor should you try). But there are times and places when you should:

  • When you have the passion
  • When you have the expertise on a particular subject and
  • When it’s your duty to do so.


Leading is risky, it’s sometimes scary and can be painful, but as we have seen in Cynthia’s case, anything that is worthwhile, anything that will make a real difference and anything that creates a lasting change will involve some level of risk (most of the time, it’s on a personal level).


But when we have a noble enough cause, trying and failing is not such a big deal and the risks that were once seen as obstacles, after moving forward, are now viewed as trivial.

Parenting Success


Noah - Drawing 1
Time to read: 2 mins.

After spending the entire weekend alone with my son, I not only realised how much he has changed and grown but how adults are also in a constant state of change and growth.

The habits that a 4 year old adopts are no different to the habits that adults adopt, in that they both change our behaviour and who we are as people.


Our Children

As parents, we view children as our responsibility. It is our responsibility to set up the right routines, habits and instil morals that we believe are essential for them to succeed in life.

We sometimes battle with our children and diligently try to explain to them the importance of listening, cleaning up after themselves, going to bed on time and other important skills, tasks and rituals that can sometimes seem a little trivial (especially at the age of four).



In our minds, the same battles occur, only they are happening within ourselves. We try to explain why we need to look after our health, work out more often, eat better, complete a particular certification or qualification, get promoted and network more efficiently.


Our Parents

But what happened to our parents? Once we became adults, did they just concede and say ‘well we did all that we could’. Do they assume that we just won’t listen anymore and stop giving advice? Do they assume that we know the world better than they do?

Kids need parenting, once a kid becomes an adult, it is assumed that they can parent themselves and from that point, the parents are no longer responsible…

The question is, are we grown up enough to parent ourselves into being a better human being in the same way that we instruct our kids?


Parenting ourselves

Selecting the right words and techniques to motivate children is a skill. Even more a skill is knowing the right words and techniques to use on ourselves. After a while, it’s easy to see the patterns in behaviour in a child, but we fail to see them in ourselves.

Correcting patterns of behaviour that we see in our kids is sometimes difficult. We sometimes choose to defer taking any action and wait for them to ‘grow up’ so that they are more attentive, are able to concentrate, process more complex information and make better decisions.

Unfortunately, adults don’t have same luxury.


Measures of Success

When we see good or even great kids, a significant factor is parenting. The parents have mastered ‘the skill’ that we discussed earlier.

They have put in enough time with their kids and know the right words to say and which techniques to use. The measure of success is how their kids have turned out.

Correspondingly, when we see good or great success in other adults (or even ourselves), they too have mastered ‘the skill’. Adults who devote enough time to themselves know the right words to say and the technique to use to move them into action.

How they live their lives (all aspects of it) and the legacy they leave behind is a measure of their success.

Psychological Safety & Microaggression

Laszlo Bock

Laszlo Bock

Time to read: 4 mins


A colleague recently recommended that I listen to an interview with Google’s Lazlo Bock (the company’s VP of People Operations) on the Hidden Brain podcast.  Towards the end of the interview, Lazlo mentioned two terms that most of us may be unfamiliar with.  Although we have an understanding of them and may have even experienced the phenomena.  The two terms were:

  • Psychological Safety; and
  • Microaggression.

Lazlo’s interview delved into topics such as how employee reviews are done, how employers decide which staff members receive a pay increase, the hiring process, and other HR-related topics.


Unless you’re working in an extremely progressive workplace, most of these topics are somewhat outside our control and influence.



Psychological safety

The topic of psychological safety is intriguing because it’s something that can be observed in smaller teams and in organisations as a whole. It may even exist within your own family.


It’s something that’s hard to describe in words. When psychological safety exists in the workplace, we say it’s a ‘really nice’ workplace; when it doesn’t exist, we hear the workplace described as ‘difficult’ or just plain ‘bad’.


What are we trying to say with these generic adverbs and adjectives?



What it is

Psychological safety is a shared belief that the team is safe from interpersonal risks. ‘Safe’ teams are teams in which members feel accepted and respected.



A practical example

I recently joined a new team, and during our first retrospective I was asked how I transitioning. I responded by saying that I found all of the team member to be very open and friendly. The scrum master added:


“The thing I like most about this team is that there is no one dominant personality within the group.”


Despite the defined roles and a certain hierarchy, everybody made time for each other, and no one was too proud to admit a mistake or say that they missed something. To me, the level of transparency was what made the team great and enjoyable to work with.


People felt safe, and no one was criticised.



The majority and the minority

Our team produced better results, they were generally more relaxed, got more work done, and in a lot less time.


Because our team consisted of more senior team members, an assumption was made that this was the reason our team ran so well. And so, in an attempt to improve other teams, two of our most senior staff members were swapped for ‘newbies’. But this didn’t improve the results of the other teams or diminish our own. That’s because the working culture of the majority influenced the minority.



And microagression…

The other topic in the Lazlo interview, microaggression (one word) is a topic everyone should be aware of. Microaggressions happen every day. When they occur, they’re usually done unconsciously and without intent.


There is an interesting website where microaggression is explained through photos. While some of these photos are blatantly offensive, others make you stop and think. Putting yourself into someone else’s position and understanding how the words we use can be hurtful is an underutilised skill. I implore you to give the article a quick look.



Stretching out the group

Microaggression has a strong association with race and ethnicity, but microaggressions can (and should) be applied to other minority groups associated with gender, sexuality, age, those with disabilities and religious beliefs.



The Freeman approach

Because microaggressions usually happen without conscious bias, what can we do about them? I like Morgan Freeman’s approach, which is to ‘stop talking about it’. There is no need to point out a person’s race or ethnicity (or any of the groups mentioned above). Just talk to a person as a person. Again, I implore you to check out the article to understand what a microaggression is.


We’re more likely to see microaggressions in casual social settings than in a professional working environment.



Be the change 

Looking at my example of psychological safety, we can see how the majority in a group has a strong influence over the minority.


Trying to change the majority is not easy. It’s even more difficult when you’re in the minority. But sometimes it’s the only option that we have as individuals. Eventually, if enough individuals change, then the majority will change and the way to start is with those within your own circle of influence.



Comparing the two

Microaggressions can destroy a psychologically safe environment. A psychologically safe environment encourages and demonstrates how we should treat others – that is, by relating to others without prejudice, by always giving them the benefit of the doubt, and generally having a positive and understanding attitude towards them.


It also works the other way around. By looking at the benefits of psychological safety, we can logically conclude that psychological safety inhibits forms of microaggression.

Obtaining Charisma


Elon Musk

Time to read: 5 min

On the 31st of March, Elon Musk stepped out on stage to introduce Tesla’s first mass production electric sedan named the Model 3. That day I watched Elon present to an excited and enthusiastic audience.  While his delivery was not the best, the Model 3 did not disappoint and as a result has had 300k pre-orders to date.

Musk has a long list of incredible achievements from co-founding Paypal and building innovative companies such as

With an amazing track record of success, its obvious that Elon must be a great leader.  And as with all great leaders of magnitude, he possess the elusive skill of charisma.


The charisma link
We often associate charisma with those who are in positions of power, who dress well and have a job title to match. But today this is not enough to tick the charisma box.

Businesses operating in an environment controlled by a culture of fear and authority alone will not last (at least not in the long term).  Our expectations of what a workplace should embody have changed and as a result more leaders and less managers are needed.

You may have seen this table (or something similar) on your LinkedIn feed:

Management Leadership
– Controls + Empowers
– Authority + Goodwill
– Takes credit + Gives Credit
– Uses others + Develops others
– Fear + Enthusiasm


From the table above and using Elon as an example, leadership requires a different set of skills that we traditionally associate with charisma and which are more personal.

Elon is an interesting example, as I mentioned earlier Elon’s delivery was not the best, he stuttered through his presentation and at times struggled to find the right words to purvey his ideas.  If we assume that Elon has a high level of charisma, it lead me to think:
• What is charisma? And
• Can charisma be demonstrated in different forms outside of speeches and presentations?

The belief I have is that charisma and leadership are tied closely together.


Charisma defined

“Compelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others”

By examining the definition alone, its easy to see why charisma is synonymous with leadership.  The good news is that displays of charisma can happen everyday in the interactions we have with our friends, family and co-workers.  And who wouldn’t want to have a number of devoted followers!  😃

Charisma can generally be categorised into four groups.  Two of them are immediately accessible to everyone, so we’ll start with them.


The Focus Charisma
The focus charisma is easy to access and is highly effective.  It requires you to be completely present, free from distraction and be able to fully absorb what others are saying.

The focus charisma demands giving someone your full attention, this can be achieved by not doing other tasks, fidgeting and letting your mind drift while listening to someone else speak.  Keep strong eye contact in short bursts.  The outcome is to make people feel heard and understood.


Kindness Charisma
The kindness charisma is expressed entirely through your body language.  The kindness charisma will make others feel cherished and embraced;  as result this charisma style is heavily reliant on your ability to show warmth through your face.

Those who are genuinely caring and sympathetic towards others are easily able to express warmth through their eyes and avoid signs of tension, coldness and criticism.  For others who don’t have this natural tendency it may take a little more effort to bring up those feeling of empathy.


Using the visionary charisma takes a little more skill… The visionary is able to motivate others, show passion and is able to deliver their message with a level of conviction that sheds away any self doubt that others may have.

There is a tendency to associate visionaries with popular figures like Steve Jobs or a Martin Luther King.  But visionaries can be used on a small scale too, it alss helps that the message being delivered has some level of altruism in order further inspire others.


The authority charisma has to be earned through position, job title and status; consequently it is not directly accessible to everyone.  Those with the authority charisma have the ability to affect our world in some way or form.

The authority charisma is displayed through high level of confidence and is used as a means to get others to simply listen and obey without questions.   Earlier in the article I noted that working on authority alone is not enough and this is due it’s supplementary effects.

The authority charisma:

  • doesn’t invite feedback and
  • inhibits critical thinking in others

It therefore should be balanced with other types of charisma styles to avoid the ivory tower syndrome.


Where to from here..
Its fun to go out and try on a particular charisma style or see if you can identify a charisma style with others that you work with.  Choosing the right charisma style will depends on a few factors:

  • What you are comfortable with (i.e. you own personality)
  • What you are trying to achieve (the goal) and
  • The situation you are in.

As it turns Elon Musk is a master of the focus charisma.  In the workplace he sits in the corner of the office and hides behind two giant monitors.  He uses this as a way to shield himself from the rest of the office.  But when he emerges behind those monitors he is completely present and 100% focused on who he is listening to.

It would be fair to assume that Elon is super focused on everything he does, including his people.  And that’s where it all starts and where it all finishes; its all about the people you know (in work and in life) and how you can touch them.

Where will you lead your ‘devoted followers’ ? and how you can influence them towards something bigger or direct them onto a better path?

You can read more on the topic of charisma in the book The Charisma Myth by Oliva Fox Cabana.

Two types of Dreams

Lauryn Hill

Lauryn Hill

Time to read: 2 minutes

Last night while I was in the shower (where all great ideas come) I was listening to Lauryn Hill’s album ‘The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill’. Track no.4 ‘Zion’ came on with the guitar strumming, the lyrics can be found here.


The song is titled after her first born son (Zion) and follows the theme of choice. The choice of giving and nurturing a new life or the choice of nurturing an already successful and exploding music career. The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill went on to receive 10 Grammy nominations, winning 5 in total and selling 19 million copies world wide.


Since that time Lauryn has been semi retired and the world of music (especially hip hop)  not only lost a great artist but someone that added diversity and value to the genre. It was like small piece of integrity was gone and has never been replaced.   I say integrity because her album was beautiful, it was about real issues, things that mattered, story telling and parables through song. It was poetry (listen to album for yourself).


It’s hard to find album with the same themes today; there are less people willing to speak the truth about their own reality and their dreams.  Which is the topic that I want to bring up today.



A dream
Firstly let’s define what a dream is. In this context a dream is a desired future state which hasn’t yet been realised.  Commonly these can be around:

  • Material items, things that we want
    Wanting to possess physical items on a grand scale  
  • How we are perceived
    Wanting to be admired and appreciated  for a particular skill or talent
  • Being in a better position
    Wanting to have easier and more enjoyable lifestyle 


Such dreams are usually depicted as being a little selfish but they don’t need to be if they have the right intent.  Spending too much time fantasying about your dreams without a plan for its attainment can lead you to be close to delusional…

Despite whether your dreams are selfish or selfless (or something in the middle), when there is no plan your dreams fall into the two clear categories or two types of dreams.



Two type of dreams
There are two type of dreams that we all have:

One is used to escape our current reality, the other has the potential to change our reality.

One denies our current state, the other uses it as a catalyst for change.

One (dream) is superficial the other is significant.

One is fantasy the won’t come true, the other comes to fruition with time and perseverance. 



The altruistic path 
A better dream is something that is a little harder to obtain, where the road map and steps to take are not so obvious. It is a path that you do not follow but pave for yourself. If you were to use Maslow’s hierarchy we would be moving towards the higher levels around esteem and self actualization. Its the altruistic path.

As our lives continue to get busier, through our growing work commitments, family and other personal pursuits; just like Lauryn we may find out that we do not have room for both…