Confidence through Writing

Ryan Reynolds

Time to read: 4 mins

This article is for those who have ever wanted to start writing, keep a journal or the brave soul who wishes to persuade an audience through personal essay’s (i.e. starting your own blog).


Van Wilder

For better or worse last weekend I went to watch the movie Deadpool starring Ryan Reynolds.  The last memorable movie I saw Ryan star in was Van Wilder, way back in 2002 (14 years ago!).

Van Wilder is a comedy/romance about a university student who comes to realise that he may be scared of graduating after being in school for the last seven years.  I found the movie to be really funny, although at the time I would have been in my early 20’s and what I found funny back then may be classified as cringe comedy with some scenes being more disturbing than funny  (You have been warned).

In the movie Van had an assistant who he mentors named Taj.  Taj would follow Van around campus and every time Van would utter some words of wisdom he would point to Taj and say ‘Write that down’.


Reasons to write

When I first heard Van repeatedly say that line, I assumed the act of writing would aid in remembering those words of wisdom.  But now that I am in the habit of consistently writing both personally and professionally (as a Business Analyst) I can definitively say there is so much more to gained from writing than just being an aid to recall information.

Below I have adduce all of the reasons, benefits and states of writing. Keep in mind that they are not necessarily done in this order.  In fact I don’t believe there is a ‘correct’ order at all.

Just like the mind, when you write freely you may go from one state (e.g. reflection) to another (redefining an experience) only to return back to the first state.  Hopefully this will all make sense to you by the time you finish reading.  Let’s begin.



Writing allows you to reflect upon your thoughts and actions.  Your thoughts and actions make up your experiences that you have had in your life. Writing gives you a tool to make your actions more purposeful.


Redefining or reinforcing experience

Writing enables you to redefine or reinforce what your experiences mean to you.  Positive experience should be reinforced, negative and unpleasant experiences can be redefined. Your life experiences make up your identity.



The sum of all your experiences make up your identity.  Your identity defines:

  • your beliefs
  • what you think you are capable of
  • the bearings on your moral compass
  • how you judge what is good, right and fair and
  • how you act and react within your life situation.


Who you are

To piggyback off my last point, knowing how to act and react to  life situations stems from your interpretation of past or similar experiences in your life.  Just scheduling the time to think independently allows you to clarify your own thoughts.


Clarifying thoughts 

Clarifying and understanding your own thoughts and biases is an important precursor to all good decisions making.  Examining decisions helps you to understand where you are today and what decisions need to be made to:

  • obtain a certain life style or
  • pursue a future endeavor.



Having the right reasons ultimately give you confidence because by this time you have a clear and deep understanding upon the ‘why’.  With having the right reasons you can take the steps to move forward in your thinking, decision-making and actions.


Making sense of all it

As I mention earlier there is no sequential order to follow.  But as you write you will undoubtedly go through one or more of these stages.  As an example:

your thoughts –> finding reasons –> understanding past actions 

or maybe:

reflection –> on experiences –> creates identity –> determines who you are –> creates future actions 


Still waters run deep 

Each stage will serve you and will slowly transform you into a more grounded person, someone who is not easily shaken and someone who truly grows wiser with every experience that they go through.


Where to start

Start by examining how you write at work, appreciate how the simple act of jotting down a to do list keeps you focus.  How saying thank you in a reply email shows your character or how adding a smiley face emanates warmth.   If your job involves problem solving, try writing out the problem before figuring out a solution.


Back to Van Wilder..

Whatever you are thinking, whatever you feeling, whatever hopes and dreams you may have of the future, a life worth living is worth recording. So in the words of Van Wilder  ‘Write that down…’



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